Misconception Alert!

 Today, I was reading the book called mindset. And I realized something.

I was literally thinking about nonsense stuffs since past week. I used to believe that, my partner should know what I think, feel, and I should know what my partner thinks, feels, and needs. But this is impossible.  Mind reading instead of communicating inevitably backfires. 

Without proper communication, relation cannot last for long. When partners stop talking and sharing their feelings, the connection dies, even though they’re still physically together.

Was I completely mistaken about the relationship? 

A no-effort relationship is a doomed relationship, not a great relationship. It takes work to communicate accurately and it takes work to expose and resolve conflicting hopes and beliefs. 

Daniel Wile says that choosing a partner is choosing a set of problems. Because there are no problem-free candidates. 

The good part is you should not expect anything from anyone. If someone doesn’t want you then please see it. If you can’t face this, then go and meditate. You can meditate for 5 years then easily you can move forward. Everyday meditate, be consistent, and explore yourself. 

For me, having a good communication, helping partners, within the relationship, to reach their own goals and fulfill their own potential. This is the growth mindset in action.

  

Comments

  1. Kashyap16 December 2025 at 03:19

    The person wants to make the effort. He was thinking about you. He wanted a communication. He might have a problem called alexithymia. He wants to communicate very hardly.

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